Researcher are getting a handle on a big problem facing our children: fear is a huge issue for many children coming from trauma and neglect backgrounds where their needs were not met in consistent, nurturing ways in early life. Science is unraveling the mystery of the neurobiology of fear and the body’s amazing fight, flight, and freeze responses designed to survive a traumatic event. Clinicians are seeing that with sustained danger and no one to help them, children eventually believe that they are alone in the world without anyone to meet their needs, so they develop survival skills in place of trusting others to care for them. Practitioners are recognizing that hurt children still use the fear-based survival strategies they learned prior to coming to their new foster or adoptive home, despite now living in stable, caring homes.
It is vitally important to learn how to recognize your child’s trauma-based needs that are born out of fear, and learn to promote felt safety in your home to disarm the core fear issues driving their survival behaviors. Yes, it is a daunting task to dive into a child’s deeply ingrained fear responses, but it is a necessary one, in order for your child to heal. But fear is a funny thing. It sticks its ugly head in places it doesn’t belong. And if you are parenting a fearful child but feeling stuck at helping them heal, chances are fear has a hold on you too, in some area. It is an ailment common to humanity.
We’re getting a handle on the PROBLEM. But what we truly need is connection with the Solution.
A loving Father is ready to take hold of your hand, when you extend it to Him, to help you through your own fear. It is only in this connection to Him (taking His hand) that fear dissipates in your life and you receive the authority to cast out fear in your child’s life.
TBRI can help you create an environment of felt safety for your child, to help them deal with their fear, but first you yourself need to walk in fearlessness by taking hold of your own Safety Source. What do you do when you fear God, not in awe-some reverence, but because you are afraid to reveal yourself to Him? Do you fear His rejection? Are you back in the Garden after eating from the Tree, trying to hide your sins from God and yourself? Let Him help you in your fears.
Here are 5 verses showing the True power behind overcoming fear, that you can talk to the Father about, asking Him to take away the fear. God wants your child set free of fear and you set free of fear, even more than you do.