God has given parents specially granted authority in the lives of their children, which is amazingly good news for us who want to be used by Him to bring health, hope, and healing to our children. This authority doesn’t rest on how well we do things…it rests on the Sovereignty and power and goodness of the Holy One. We have the power to speak life into our children’s lives and situations, not because we’re all that..or have the language or the skills…but because God granted us that authority. It comes from Him.
We do, however need to understand the purpose of this authority, because we don’t want to misappropriate it toward an end that is not of God. For example, Rabbi Yeshua (Jesus) puts it this way when discussing power dynamics in authoritative relationships:
When the ten heard about this, they were indignant with the two brothers. 25 Jesus called them together and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles* lord it over them, and their high officials exercise authority over them. 26 Not so with you. Instead, whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant, 27 and whoever wants to be first must be your slave— 28 just as the Son of Man did not come to be served, but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.” (Matthew 20) * the term gentile here means those without God in their lives; of the nations, not of God’s Covenant family. *
Paul caught on to this idea: Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. Ephesians 4:29.
The quote illustrated in the meme above also informs us that God gives authority to build up and not to tear down. When we parents use our God-given authority over our children as a tool for controlling them to ensure orderliness, or to justify punishment for wrong doing, we miss the real opportunity God is giving us.
As priests in your home, you have divine power behind your words of blessing to your children:
The Lord bless you and keep you; The Lord make His face shine upon you, and be gracious to you; The Lord lift up His countenance upon you, and give you peace. Numbers 6:24-26
Each one of these words has significant meaning to empower the hearer toward deep relationship with God and restoration of the dry places: bless, keep, His face shine, gracious, His countenance upon you, peace. This would make a wonderful study to see how each of these promises and empowerments can have direct, practical application for the futures of your children. If you are a parent in Covenant with the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob, you are called to represent your children before God in intercession, and to pronounce blessings in the name of this God.
Is your child fearful, have anxiety, and worry? Pray those empowering scriptures dealing with these issues over them, trusting God to come into those places of fear. Does you child feel abandoned by birth parents, or have feelings of not belonging? Pray those scriptures of belonging. And then walk out those empowerments. Neuroscience tells us that we can re-wire our brains, that we can be change agents in the re-wiring of our children’s brains. Believe it, you have God’s authority to do just that. God’s authority gives lasting results.
As you learn and use the principles of TBRI for your children, always remember the spiritual power behind the actions. When you use strategies to create felt safety for your terrified, cortisol-filled child, don’t just stop there – also proclaim that our God delights in them being set free of fear. Proclaim that the work Messiah did on the cross was to show that He overcame the power of FEAR too. Proclaim that they have meaning and purpose in their lives, that they have belonging and a family because your heavenly Father told you so.
We have a power source of Godly authority in our children’s lives to speak against the things which bind them up. Don’t forget to plug in!