If you’ve read any of Brené Brown’s books or seen her amazing TedX Talk you know how her research gives evidence that we are “hard-wired for connection,” and that without voluntary vulnerability, there is no true connection, there is only parallel isolation. “It is not good for man to be alone,” is our primal cry for connection.
Adam walked in the cool of the day with God, but yet, God saw something was still missing in Adam; He brought him Eve. What that says is that the act of becoming one which includes one with yourself, is a process that needs relationship with others. You cannot become you alone.
“It is not good for man to be alone” tells us that you and I and our children for whom relationships, vulnerability, and closeness are excruciatingly difficult right now need connection—desperately.
Keep doing the good work you are doing with your hurt kids. The very essence of who they are and who they are meant to become is dependent on it. You have a unique position in their lives with the authority backed by the King of the Universe to show them the power of vulnerability. And yes, it’s perfectly wonderful to work on vulnerability together. It’s not too late for us either!